“How can I carry my baby for 9 months and then give it away?” We hear this question pretty frequently.
It tends to come from those expecting moms who are finding themselves early in their pregnancy, and often times, considering abortion.
Somewhere, whether a doctor’s office, Pregnancy Resource Clinic, Friend or Family member, someone has suggested an option other than parenting or abortion. Adoption.
The Questions, “How can I carry my baby for 9 months and give it away or give it up,” is a tough question. We find that there isn’t one simple, compact answer. But rather making an adoption plan for your child (or children) means you’ve chosen life for your child. You have made the decision to bless a family with your gift and provided your child with a future filled with hope.
Think of it this way…you aren’t giving up your baby or giving up on your baby. You are making a plan for your baby (or children), because you love them. As their parent, who loves their child, you are making a brave, selfless choice, that you feel is best for them. That’s not giving up. It’s love.
It’s hard, likely the hardest choice you will ever make. But, it’s one done out of the fierce love you have for your child.
We would love to talk. If you have found yourself facing an untimely pregnancy or in a crisis parenting situation send a message or text or give us a call. We are here to listen and guide you in making a parenting plan or an adoption plan.
We can be reached 24/7 phone or text at 937-471- 2954
Adoptive parents, expecting parents, and birth parents have many decisions to make as they begin their journey into the adoption world.
This journey is met with lots of questions, and often times confusion. One of those questions is often times, “Should I use an adoption agency or just an attorney?”
Let us preface this conversation with a couple truths:
One of Choosing Hope Adoptions mantra’s and practices is that adoption should never feel transactional. Adoption should always be relational.
Partnering with an adoption agency sets you up for an adoption journey that is more relational than transactional. At Choosing Hope you are instantly welcomed by our wholistic team approach. We work and serve alongside you. You are met with a team of professionals – Licensed Social Workers, Expecting
Parent Advocates, Agency Director, and Administrative staff that all know the adoption process from the inside out. We gather as a team to pray and work together on each client’s individual needs. Your needs, hopes, and dreams for both you and your child(ren) are our top priority…birth family and
adoptive family alike!
Your long-term HOPES AND DREAMS become our heartbeat for you. We will both guide you and connect you with resources to help you and your family achieve your dreams and meet your needs. It is our hope, whether you are an adoptive parent, expecting parent, or birth parent that our relationship
grows into one that lasts a life time.
Will paper and legal work be a part of the process? Yes, of course. And it will be done very well. But your long term emotional wellbeing is just as important if not more important. We are in it with you for as long as you will allow us to be a part of your life. We hope to call you a friend.
Adoption Agency’s tend to be relational, offer long term care and support, and surround their clients with a team of professionals.
Ohio’s Rules….why agency placement is wise.
In Ohio when a child with special needs is placed through an adoption agency they can qualify for adoption subsidy. Adoption Subsidy is an adoption benefit that includes a medical card and often times a monthly stipend. Adoption subsidy makes it possible for many adoptive parents, who otherwise couldn’t, say YES to adopting a child with special needs. It also assures birth parents that their child with special needs will always have their medical needs covered.
Children with special needs who are placed directly through an attorney, in Ohio, cannot quality for this subsidy. For this reason, we feel strongly that placing through an agency, in the state of Ohio, is in the best interest of all children.
Holler with any other questions you might have on this subject! We’d love to talk.
Recently a friend gave me a spiritual nudge by reminding me that everyone is made in the Image of God…everyone carries His greatness.
That sat heavy in my gut.
Everyone carries His greatness….we reflect Holy.
It’s interesting how a nudge like that, when taken to heart, gives one a clear lens to peer through…not just for the situation at hand, but for all encounters.
It’s with that lens that I have chosen to look at Carlisle, OH teen Brooke Skyler Richardson. Richardson is accused of killing her newborn baby, burning it, and burying in her backyard just days after she birthed it.
The social media conversation surrounding this case is ugly…the blame game, the name calling, the suggested punishment. There is no doubt this criminal act is horrifying, sickening, tragic…etc.
Consequences will follow all of her days.
But aren’t we all asking, “why” and wondering, “what if?”
County Prosecutor David Forshell has declined to speculate on motive but said, “it was a perception issue and the teen’s mother was concerned about appearances.”
Shame is an enemy of the soul. It carries nothing Holy and only reflects the depths of hell.
I’m not interested in placing blame on Richardson’s parents. What needs to be recognized here is that we have a culture that is still not recognizing that every child, regardless of the situation surrounding them, should be and deserves their arrival to be anticipated with joy and excitement.
Somewhere Richardson became victim to the lie that this child wasn’t a blessing. And the consequences of the decisions she made because she believed that lie are dire. Her life, and her parent’s lives, are forever changed.
And a child is gone.
Paul says in Ephesians that “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”
A spiritual battle where darkness prevailed.
Shame and Secrecy cannot continue to be part of the equation when we are dealing with an untimely pregnancy.
Where there is LIFE, there is God. There is purpose. There is destiny.
I wonder what Richardson’s days and weeks were like leading up to her giving birth. It sounds like people knew she was expecting, and she was seeing a doctor.
But…was there a baby shower? Had she decorated a nursery? Had she chosen a name? Did she openly celebrate feeling her baby move in her womb? Did she hear the sounds of her baby’s heart on a doppler? Did she carry around ultrasound pictures sharing them with friends and family? Did she read up on epidurals, natural delivery, breastfeeding? Who reached out to her? Doctors? School counselors? Coaches? Teachers? Friends?
Was anyone anticipating this baby with joy?
Had anyone reminded Richardson that this child was created in the image of God?
But somewhere, shame won. And secrecy invaded. Shame and secrecy are dancing buddies. They Tango in the dark.
That’s where we are left. What if?
What if TRUTH had had a chance to permeate her heart and renew her mind. Maybe she would have parented. Maybe she would have made an adoption plan.
I wish I had had the opportunity to sit with her over a cup of coffee. To dream with her, to laugh and cry with her. To sit and listen.
If you are experiencing an untimely pregnancy or in a crisis parenting situation please text or call us anytime at 937-471- 2954.
We will listen.