Birthmom expenses are often a controversial topic in the adoption world. But when ethically distributed, they are a blessing in the adoption journey, for both the expectant parents and the adoptive parents.
Birthmom expenses are funds that can be used to pay living expenses of an expectant mom making an adoption plan for her coming baby. In Ohio, up to $3000 in living expenses can be paid for mom making an adoption plan for her baby. These funds can be distributed up to 60 days after placement of the child.
Here are a few expenses that would qualify as living expenses:
When a mom we are serving has a financial need we see it as an opportunity to serve and bless her. She has found herself in an extremely difficult situation. She never dreamed or hoped to find herself making an adoption plan for her child.
When one of the moms we are serving needs financial help, we do our best to first collaborate with other social service agencies that can cover the need, but when that isn’t possible, we will cover the need for her.
Choosing Hope Adoptions never distributes these funds directly to an expectant mom, but instead we pay the bill for her. In the case of a grocery or gas need, it is our hope that our expectant parent coordinator or even the family she has chosen can take her shopping with a gift card we provide. This offers a wonderful opportunity to build a relationship with her.
There are two negative feelings that often arise surrounding birthmom expenses:
These negative feelings are often overcome when expectant moms and adoptive parents recognize what a wonderful tool they are for opening doors of communication and building a lifelong relationship.
*Birthmom expenses should always be distributed by the agency and not paid directly by adoptive parents.