Adoptive parents, expecting parents, and birth parents have many decisions to make as they begin their journey into the adoption world.
This journey is met with lots of questions, and often times confusion. One of those questions is often times, “Should I use an adoption agency or just an attorney?”
Let us preface this conversation with a couple truths:
One of Choosing Hope Adoptions mantra’s and practices is that adoption should never feel transactional. Adoption should always be relational.
Partnering with an adoption agency sets you up for an adoption journey that is more relational than transactional. At Choosing Hope you are instantly welcomed by our wholistic team approach. We work and serve alongside you. You are met with a team of professionals – Licensed Social Workers, Expecting
Parent Advocates, Agency Director, and Administrative staff that all know the adoption process from the inside out. We gather as a team to pray and work together on each client’s individual needs. Your needs, hopes, and dreams for both you and your child(ren) are our top priority…birth family and
adoptive family alike!
Your long-term HOPES AND DREAMS become our heartbeat for you. We will both guide you and connect you with resources to help you and your family achieve your dreams and meet your needs. It is our hope, whether you are an adoptive parent, expecting parent, or birth parent that our relationship
grows into one that lasts a life time.
Will paper and legal work be a part of the process? Yes, of course. And it will be done very well. But your long term emotional wellbeing is just as important if not more important. We are in it with you for as long as you will allow us to be a part of your life. We hope to call you a friend.
Adoption Agency’s tend to be relational, offer long term care and support, and surround their clients with a team of professionals.
Ohio’s Rules….why agency placement is wise.
In Ohio when a child with special needs is placed through an adoption agency they can qualify for adoption subsidy. Adoption Subsidy is an adoption benefit that includes a medical card and often times a monthly stipend. Adoption subsidy makes it possible for many adoptive parents, who otherwise couldn’t, say YES to adopting a child with special needs. It also assures birth parents that their child with special needs will always have their medical needs covered.
Children with special needs who are placed directly through an attorney, in Ohio, cannot quality for this subsidy. For this reason, we feel strongly that placing through an agency, in the state of Ohio, is in the best interest of all children.
Holler with any other questions you might have on this subject! We’d love to talk.
I wonder if we call adoption beautiful too soon.
In the week following Easter I found myself parked in the Easter story…reading over again and again the Death, Burial, and Resurrection of Jesus. As the week went by, I meditated on what it would have been like to be Mary, the Mother of Jesus.
What must it have been like for her? The crucifixion…what must it have been like when Jesus, her son, hanging from the cross, spoke to her “Woman, behold, your son.” And in the next breath gave His disciple the role of caring for her when he was gone. (John 19:26-27)
He knew she would be grief stricken. He knew her care could not be left unspoken for. He knew she needed to belong.
On Good Friday, we remember the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross…we think, pray, ponder, and meditate on the crucifixion. The crucifixion of Jesus was the ultimate sacrifice done out of love, but the horror of the act and death…well, breathtakingly awful.
I don’t think we would ever call the crucifixion itself beautiful.
Done for the love of others, yes.
Breath taking, yes.
On “Good” Friday, we often leave a solemn church service quietly. We interestingly call it “good”, but only because we know the resurrection is coming…I’m quite certain when Jesus was hanging from the cross Mary didn’t look back and say “It’s a Good Friday.” Rather, she mourned. A lot of people mourned.
From Friday through Sunday, we prepare to celebrate the resurrection of Jesus. We prepare for Glory. We prepare because we know. We know Jesus rose from the dead. We know death was defeated. We know Mary will one day be reunited with her son. We’ve experienced His presence, of the Holy Spirit, because of the cross; we know Sunday is coming.
We know the crucifixion had to happen for the beauty of the cross.
And in that lies our HOPE that every adoption tells a beautiful story. One of sacrifice by a mom and a dad, for the sake of a life they love. Hope remains.
But…with adoption it takes time for the beauty of the story to unfold. Knowing what we know now about the grief that every birth parent and adoptee endures, I think we can tend to call adoption beautiful too soon.
It’s easy to watch a new adoptive couple walk from the hospital with a new baby and praise the child’s birth parents for the selfless gift, and call it beautiful. And it might be. And hopefully, it will be.
But the reality is we don’t know…yet. We hope, because hope was chosen. Yet in those moments, Mary is still standing at the foot of the cross.
It is because of this brokenness that Choosing Hope Adoptions is committed to the long-term care of all involved in the adoption triad; The birth parents, the adoptive parents, and the child. It is in this care where we hope the beauty of adoption unfolds.
Photo: “Drake Motel” by Sam Howzit is licensed under CC BY 2.0.
Yesterday morning news broke out across our city that a 6-week old baby had been found dead at a local motel.
This news is a tragedy. It’s a tragedy that a baby died. It’s a tragedy that the baby’s parents were so embedded in crisis, that reaching out for help eluded them. While it might seem that anger towards the parents is where energy is best spent, the reality is they are broken, hurting people. Hurting more today than yesterday. Hurting people hurt people. It’s a messy reality. This is a tragedy.
When our staff hear stories like this, a child’s life lost, we grieve. We often toss around “what if” scenarios. Wondering, had these parents known they had the option to make an adoption plan for their child, outside of CPS and the foster care system, would this child’s life have been saved. Wishing we just had the opportunity to speak hope into their lives, to love them, to encourage them, to come alongside them and connect them to resources and care.
What if we just had the chance to talk over a cup of coffee? Would we be telling a different story today? Our efforts to love them may not have been welcomed…but they might have.
The Adoption Option…the option to make an adoption plan. The option for birth parents to CHOOSE a family for their child(ren), outside of the state foster care system and CPS, needs to become front and center. The option to tell a better story, to react out of the love birth parents have for their child(ren), even amidst crisis.
Choosing Hope Adoptions is licensed to place Ohio born children ages newborn through 6 years old into home study approved adoptive families. We come alongside the expectant and birth families to help them make a plan for their child(ren).
It is our deepest desire that every parent facing an untimely pregnancy would know they have the option of making an adoption plan for their baby. It is our hope that every parent facing losing their child(ren) to the foster system would know they have an option…that they have the RIGHT, to make an adoption plan for their child(ren). That they can choose a family for their child, that they can have an ongoing open adoption, that their child will always know their birth parents loved them so much that they chose a life filled with hope for them.
Whether or not birth parents choose to parent or make an adoption plan for their child, that child always remains in their LEGACY.
What if the parents of the baby that died yesterday had known about The Adoption Option?