Whether it’s social media, Christmas cards in the mail, or a text message, each day we see the beautiful tiny faces of the children who Choosing Hope Adoptions has had the honor of placing into an adoptive home. Time and again it’s not their smile, or eyes, or wild baby hair alone that we notice…it’s their likeness to their birth parents that we see.
We see a resemblance. The smile…she looks like her mom. The hair color…we know where that comes from. The way her ears pop out just a little extra…just like her hero, her first hero. That courageous and brave mom and dad who decided to tell a different story.
Our staff at Choosing Hope…we see you. We see you in your child.
The new TV series This Is Us has taken its viewers on an emotional roller coaster and given a glimpse into the heart of an adopted Child. In a recent episode, Randell, an elementary aged boy who was adopted as a new born, has recently learned that being able to roll your tongue is a genetically inherited trait. Randell doesn’t know who his birth family is. He doesn’t know his story or why his birth parents made an adoption plan for him…he’s left with so many questions.
Randell is black and can roll his tongue. So, while out in public, he approaches black adults and asks them if they can roll their tongue. Because if they can, maybe, just maybe, they are his birth parents.
This scene depicts a reality of adoption. While so much is gained through an adoptive family, much is lost. There is a loss in adoption that cannot be ignored, stuffed away, or left a secret.
Adoption is a redemptive plan to a crisis. It’s a “yes” to telling a different story. When coupled with the Hope of Christ adoption redeems…but not just the life of the child, but equally important the lives of the birth parents.
With very few exceptions we find that open adoption is best. For a child to know where they came from, for them be able to see those likenesses they have with their birth parents…where their smile, hair, or ability to roll their tongue came from…it ties up loose ends and helps bring healing, to the child and the birth parents.
Watch for more posts on Open Adoption and the vision God has given Choosing Hope Adoptions to partner with the foster system in hopes of telling a different story there.