Giving Child Up for Adoption
How Can I Give My Child Up for Adoption?
If you’re pregnant and wondering how you could carry a child for 9 months and then give it up for adoption, Choosing Hope Adoptions wants to offer you a different perspective.
Don’t Give Up: Make a Life-Affirming Choice
The term “give up” often paints a bleak picture of being backed into a corner with few choices regarding your current circumstances and even fewer about your future.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
When you work with the right adoption agency, you’re not “giving up” anything. In fact, choosing to place your child in a stable and loving home is one of the most empowering, life-affirming choices you can make.
So, What IS the Right Adoption Agency?
If you’re considering adoption for your unborn baby or child, you’ll want to work with a team that values you as the birth mother and doesn’t view your relationship with the agency as transactional.
An ethical adoption agency works with the birth and adoptive families to ensure that the needs and rights of the child, the birth mom, and the adoptive family are given equal value. Through open adoption, bonds can be created, not broken. That’s the goal of an ethical agency.
Old “Best Adoption Practices” Weren’t So Great After All
It’s hard to believe it now, but it used to be considered best practice for adoptions to be closed. That meant that after the child was placed with an adopting family, the birth mother had no further contact either with the child she birthed or the adoptive family (and in many cases, the birth father was completely unaware of the child’s existence).
These arrangements are often devastating to the child, especially when they don’t share the ethnicity of their adoptive family. This leaves the child with many questions that, in a closed adoption, cannot be answered until they reach adulthood. And even then, there’s no guarantee the state they were born in will unseal their records.
No wonder so many women viewed placing their child for adoption as “giving up.”
Open Adoptions Offer a Brighter Future
As you’ve probably guessed by the term, open adoption is the opposite of a closed adoption. Even if the child’s birth family doesn’t maintain contact, the adoptive family has access to vital information, including hereditary health concerns.
If you’re a birth mother, open adoption through Choosing Hope Adoptions gives you choices. Even more than that, you are supported, not just throughout your pregnancy but for the rest of your life, through our birth mom support group.
Our caring staff will work closely with you to help you choose a family for your child. We’ll also help you create an adoption plan that will give you peace of mind about your child’s future as well as your own.
What Should Be in Your Adoption Plan?
An adoption plan is a very personal and individual document that informs adoption agency staff, the adoptive family, and even your family what your wishes are. A birth plan may cover:
- Whether you intend to spend any time with the baby after it’s born
- How soon after birth the child is placed with the adoptive family
- How much contact you’ll have with the adoptive family after the child goes home with them
Remember, when you’re making your plan, there is no wrong or right way to do it. Your plan should reflect YOUR unique needs and wishes.
The Only Thing You’ll Give Up is the Fear of Going it Alone
If you’re facing an unintended pregnancy and wondering what you should do, reach out to us. Choosing Hope Adoptions has caring staff available 24/7 to listen to your situation and help you figure out your next step.
We believe in supporting mothers, not judging them, so we’ll go over ALL of your options, which include abortion, adoption, and parenting your child yourself. Then you can decide what is right for you and your baby.
Don’t “give your child up” for adoption. Make the loving choice to build a strong bond with a loving, adoptive family and give your baby and yourself the chance to thrive.