Once you have made the choice to make an adoption plan for your child, or if you are still in the process of making this decision, many expectant mothers become nervous or anxious about how they will tell their friends and family about this decision.
We have seen birth moms in all walks of life use our services, helping them navigate this sometimes difficult conversation. Choosing Hope Adoption Agency is here to help birthmoms through every step of the adoption process, and telling friends and family is one of them.
Here are a few quick tips that can help you successfully have these conversations. We are also always happy to walk you through the process in person.
Start with your feelings
When starting hard conversations, one of the best ways to approach it is to focus on your feelings. This approach makes in harder for someone who may want to argue against you. You have the right to feel every one of the emotions you are feeling, by communicating that friends and family can empathize with you better.
Acknowledge their feelings
Many friends and family may feel like they should have a say in this decision. At the end of the day, it is the birth parents’ decision to create an adoption plan for their child. This doesn’t mean it isn’t hard for grandparents, aunts, uncles, and loved ones who may be affected.
By taking the time to acknowledge the feelings of your friends and family, you are validating the fact that you know they care for you and your child.
Help them understand
Misunderstanding will make having this conversation very difficult. Clearly explain the process you have taken to get to making the decision you have made. Walk them through the options you explored and the resources you have used to come to a decision.
Stay calm and to the point
This is a conversation that will evoke many emotions for everyone involved. Do your best to keep yourself and others calm. Keep things short and to the point to avoid going down any unnecessary conversation paths.
Don’t be afraid to practice what you will say to family and friends. Practice and seek advice from someone close to you who has walked alongside you through the process or with someone from our agency.
For support in creating an adoption plan for your child our adoption agency near Columbus, Ohio has many caring people waiting to support and resource you every step of the way.